Ever find yourself starting the day off great, feeling good about yourself, then you pick up your phone and immediately start scrolling through social media and before you know it you start to question what you’re doing in life all together? You immediately jump into the comparison game wondering why someone else’s life, body, or business seems so perfect leaving you with feelings of doubt and trying to figure out why your life seems everything but perfect?

We’ve all been there.

We all have struggled with comparing our success to the success of someone else who seems to have it all figured out. We have compared our bodies to someone else’s body who seems to have ZERO flaws. Our relationship, our careers, our friends…we compare everything!

After a while though, the cycle gets old and the pressure gets annoying of feeling like no matter how hard you try to be perfect you just can’t and don’t understand how other people seem to have it all together.

Not only that, how many times has something you saw on social media completely ruined your day, your relationship or your focus just because of some “image” that may or may not even be real.

Sounds crazy to think we give social this much power and control over our lives. 

Truth be told…most social media pages are simply a “highlight reel” of people’s lives. It’s all the high points that they are excited to share and talk about because they are proud of these moments. Nobody wakes up in the morning and snaps a picture of what they ACTUALLY look like rolling out of bed as a hot mess before they’ve even had coffee. However, if more people did wouldn’t that make you feel a little less pressure and a little more normal?

The same is true in business and relationships. There’s this false sense or idea that if it’s on social media then it must be true.

I struggled for a while when I first started the ABS Protein Pancakes brand and even this website of feeling like all these women I followed on social had “overnight success” so why in the world was it taking me soooo long to get “there”.  I literally can remember days where I would bust my a$$ doing everything I could to grow the business feeling like I was well on my way to building a huge brand then I would start scrolling Facebook or Instagram and see someone I admired doing more and immediately feel like what I was doing wasn’t enough…I wasn’t enough…my progress wasn’t enough.

I also struggled with this years ago with my body image as well (which by now you’ve heard the story), but I would have a killer workout, my nutrition would be on track, I was doing my daily self-reflection then I would scroll social media and boom right back to feeling like crap about myself and hating my body.

This is why I am a firm believer that you need to have specific days/times that you disconnect from technology so that you can reconnect with your life and live in the present moment. I typically will minimize my phone/technology activity on weekends since this is when I tend to spend the most time with family and friends.

If you have never done this, consider it a mental and spiritual detox that will leave you feeling refreshed and so much better about yourself. Also, you may find yourself suffering from good ole’ FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out). We literally feel if we are not constantly scrolling something that we are missing out on something. What really will happen when you take a few days off from social is you’ll get back on and realize you literally missed NOTHING and that it was both a waste of time and energy (give or take the time spent being productive with business or adding value through content).

Why do we do this to ourselves? We know that our lives are better and we feel better when we are fulling present and aren’t comparing our lives to thousands of people we barely even talk to on social.

In today’s chat, Kindal and I talk about this pressure or image of being “perfect” that is blasted all over social media, but also specific ways you can shut it out and stop the comparison train that leads to self doubt so that you can finally take control over what fills your news feed and your mind every day so you can feel more confident and focused on your own journey!

What about you? Do you find that your mood and confidence shifts when you are on social media? 

Leave a comment below and let us know how you overcome this in your own life.

Ashley Drummonds